UPSB v3
Serious Discussion / Scratch
What should I do?
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Date: Sat, Feb 7 2009 17:01:18
Here's the background story.
So, during the week of 2/1/09 my friend Andrew asks me to be a substitute for Academic Club. I respond with, "Sure". He then proceeds to tell me to meet me at the front of our school at 7am and the competition will be in _____(a state university I forgot about) and will end at 2pm. Today is the day of the academic competition. I having forgotten, is woke up by my dad and given the phone. Andrew was on the phone. He asked if I was busy and could come. I responded with,"No". I lied because I didn't feel like going. He replied with an, "Okay." We both hung up. My dad standing next to me apparently was informed by Andrew that this was an academic competition, being of Asian descent, my dad insisted that I go. Thus, I went ahead and took a quick shower, and put on some clothes. I went ahead and told my dad that it was time to go. He gave me the keys to the Civic and told me to back the car out. I head towards the Civic fingering the keys. I get in and start the ignition. I put the car in reverse and proceed to back out. The Ford F150 was on my right. I thought that the car was free to quickly pass. I released the brake and went back quite fast. As it so happened the Civic was not in the clear. I began to hear a strange scratching sound. I quickly put it in Drive and went forward, only to hear another scratching sound. I put the Civic in Park and go check the damage. The Civic hadn't received as much damage as I thought it would, it looked as if it had been scratched by a branch. The Ford F150 had sustained quite more damage. It was right above where the rear left tire was, the paint had been completely scratched off, only to show the gunmetal colored metal shell underneath. The scratch was about the size of half a Yu-Gi-Oh card. Other scratches left behind were similar as to the ones left on the Civic. These scratches only covered about a palm length, so the damage was not as bad as I thought. My dad then came out of the house in surprise asking if I had hit the car. I told the truth and responded with a yes. He began to become angry and frustrated, while I began to fill up with guilt and sadness. He asked, "Why didn't you look?" I had no response. He told me to get in the car and that he would drive. He drove me to school, and the academic team was not there. He asked where they were. I said they're gone. Seeing as the incident I had just a few minutes ago, he angrily asked/commented as to why I don't have their cell phone number or knew if they were going to be there. It was already 30 minutes past 7 am. In my head I was thinking, well it was already past 7 am and I already said no to Andrew. So, I concluded that going was pointless, needless to say my dad told me that as well. He drove me back home and told me to wash the Ford F150.
Besides me being a disappointment, failure, irresponsible, and stupid person. Do you have any ideas of how I can make it up to my dad? I feel really guilty and do realize that all of this was my fault. It would be great if you could help. -
Date: Sat, Feb 7 2009 17:12:28
yikes, pretty serious...
i would say, pay for the damage on the civic,
do lots of work around the house,
avoid more trouble,
and slowly regain ur dads trust and happiness...
i really hope it helps, its what i do when my
parents get really mad at me...(theyre asian 2)
(chinese specificaly, so u can probly imagine my
punishments...kung fu kicks in the ass) -
Date: Sun, Feb 8 2009 04:05:58
That is some serious matter. God damn.
One thing is sure however. You are definitely not a stupid one. You told the truth to your father, you did not whine and make any excuses, and you blame yourself for your own mistake, and you seem very very VERY regretful and reflecting it. Yes, it is such an obvious thing to parents that their child do this, but it's actually really rare that children actually do this. I think you were very mature and had done the right thing to response to your mistake.
Now to the solution you are looking for, I would say you work to pay for the repair. Like i have said above, your father should still be proud of you for not making any excuses and blaming only yourself and not others for your mistakes. So your father shouldn't be as angry as he is. Usually, it becomes really heated up initially, and you would be really in trouble, making you feel that he is still VERY VERY mad. I also do think he is still mad, but time has passed probably a day or so, and usually in this period, you as well as your father would reflect back at what happened calmly until they assure themselves that shit happens and your father would start to get over it, and would soon take back the trust he had on you (takes about month or so).
I do not think your father hate you at all. Despite the car being scratched, damaging what your father bought using big $, he still drove you to school hoping that it would help you. This absolutely tells you that your father still care about you. I don't think you have to worry about getting it any worse. You should probably go to work and try to make money for the repair. This would probably take more than three months, but during this process, your father will already be over with it, and would really be glad of you if he finds out you are working to get a money for the repair. If you are lucky, your father would probably say you don't have to pay for it because he is happy of you, and regain the trust (or you might get even MORE trust than you had up until this situation). But you shouldn't tell your father why you are working until you get enough money.
Also try not to do anything problematic. Just try to improve your situation as much as you can.
Good luck! -
Date: Sun, Feb 8 2009 04:40:58
If I were you, I just wouldn't de anything to make your father mad until he stops being so mad. You should pay for the repair, that will probably make him less mad
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Date: Sun, Feb 8 2009 15:18:15
one question
who the hell parked the cars so tight in the first place -
Date: Sun, Feb 8 2009 19:27:00
thx rex u really made my day. he's not mad at me anymore so i think things are okay. @zombo my dad
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Date: Sun, Feb 8 2009 20:25:15QUOTE (Zombo @ Feb 8 2009, 07:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>one question
who the hell parked the cars so tight in the first place
Hahah this is the United States of America Land man!
F150's are big trucks. They're close to everything!
To Aries:
Ask how you can repay for the damages. And learn to back out ya chink! -
Date: Mon, Feb 9 2009 08:05:51
Buy him a really nice mug.
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Date: Mon, Feb 9 2009 10:08:10QUOTE (Aries @ Feb 9 2009, 04:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>thx rex u really made my day. he's not mad at me anymore so i think things are okay. @zombo my dad
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Date: Mon, Feb 9 2009 15:33:05
Issue seems to have been resolved so I'm closing this thread.