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Serious Discussion / Coping with death
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Date: Thu, Feb 25 2010 07:14:51
Both my Grandma and my dog are about to die..... How do you guys handle death?
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Date: Thu, Feb 25 2010 07:28:59
hmm, my condolences
to be honest i've never had anyone extremely or even somewhat close to me die, so i'm not even really sure how i'd handle it ...
best of luck -
Date: Thu, Feb 25 2010 08:46:01
sorry for that .. -
Date: Sun, Mar 7 2010 05:09:59
My two grandmothers died. Brought my family closer together. Just help out with the funeral and wake and you'll see.
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Date: Sun, Mar 7 2010 05:16:00
just spend as much time with them as you possibly can
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Date: Sun, Mar 7 2010 05:20:10QUOTE (neix @ Mar 6 2010, 09:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>just spend as much time with them as you possibly can
wont that make the feeling of losing them worse? D:
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Date: Sun, Mar 7 2010 05:39:07QUOTE (hahakumquat @ Mar 7 2010, 12:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>wont that make the feeling of losing them worse? D:
uhm no.. -
Date: Sun, Mar 7 2010 13:37:11QUOTE (hahakumquat @ Mar 7 2010, 02:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>wont that make the feeling of losing them worse? D:
I agree here actually.
EDIT: but I'm pretty sure Sadistic's Grandmother wants to spend rest of the time very wisely with him. So for his Grandmother, spending as much time as possible with her might be a good option. But in "will Sadistic be sadder or not", I agree that it might make him even unhappier.
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Date: Sun, Mar 7 2010 18:55:18
im sorry to hear that D: that sucks dude
<3 best of luck -
Date: Sun, Mar 7 2010 19:03:26
in general, if you get the chance to spend time with someone and you don't because you're worried it'll make you sadder, you'll regret it down the road, 100% guarantee it.
It might make you sadder short-term, but you'll end up glad you did it -
Date: Sun, Mar 7 2010 21:24:13
YA my grandma is same but we will probley both be sad at the same time. I try to be happy knowing that there in a better place then before. so good luck to both of us! srry bout the dog also!
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Date: Tue, Mar 9 2010 05:11:01QUOTE (strat1227 @ Mar 8 2010, 04:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>in general, if you get the chance to spend time with someone and you don't because you're worried it'll make you sadder, you'll regret it down the road, 100% guarantee it.
It might make you sadder short-term, but you'll end up glad you did it
Yea. Short-term sadness may be smaller than the long-term gladness you would get. Though I wouldn't 100% guarantee it.
It depends really because for some people, it might be long-term sadness that may be larger than the final gladness you get. I mean most people would never experience both ways, probably only either of them. I've spent much more time with my mother's mother than my father's mother (I rarely meet my father's mother). I would probably be sadder when my mother's mother die more than my father's mother die. And I'm not sure if it will be short-term neither especially when I have spent so much time.
More like, I would be sad either way, probably at the same level. But that's me.
Well it's really up to Sadistic though. He's got the final decision anyway. I don't know his brain in real life. -
Date: Mon, Apr 5 2010 01:58:32
My best friends dad died at 46 with cancer. They have 4 kids (3,6,13,15 years old). I knew he was going to die so I spent time with him and talked to him. It made us closer. The funeral was just a last goodbye. Also when they do die it's ok to think about them often. Remind yourself of fun and good times it will help. R.I.P Mark Thomas Morley (my second dad).
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Date: Thu, Jun 10 2010 02:36:22
dont think of them as dying. think that theyr going somewhere for a long time.
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Date: Thu, Jun 10 2010 03:29:58
"Let it be." - Beatles
Without death, you won't know how much you love/care for a person. Mouring over imo is useless and a waste of times, It's not going to bring anything back. If you're really borthered by it, take 5 mintues every morning to do whatever you want, cry, or anything, then forget about it for the rest of the day.