UPSB v3
Off-topic / fuck my family
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 01:46:08
i just went to my dad's house to get some stuff. thinking he wasnt home(like he always wasnt), i opened the door and see a naked arm come out of a door upstairs, closing the door. i saw his shoulder, so im guessing he was naked. and you can probably guess what im thinking from there. hes been with this bitch since i was born, and always tells me theyr friends. bull fucking shit. he says im selfish for not liking her. fuck him. i ignored the door closing, went to my room, got my shit, and left. after getting back to my mom's house, i texted him "i saw you". i have dinner with him on tuesday night, its gunna be awkward. any words of wisdom? btw im asian, which makes this even more awkward.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 01:52:01
If you hate your dad then just ignore him, treat him like he treats you.
If you DONT, just try to find a way to figure things out. -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:15:26
i dont hate him. i actually really like him. its just that whenever anything involves this bitch, he always seems to have a different persona and acts like i should be feeling bad about not accepting her. i was crying once and he said im selfish. this bitch ruined my family. whatever my parents told me, im pretty sure shes the reason theyr divorced. my brother went ape shit when he found out. dropped out of highschool for 2 years, and now has a really short temper. id totally talk to him about it, but hes in college and i dont want to worry him. my sister hated her too, but shes gone now, so cant talk to her. im pretty sure that even my dad's siblings hate her. i know for sure my aunt(older than him) hates her, and so do all of my cousins. everyone just acts nice to her cuz my dad is rich. i really want to get rid of her and do back to her what she did to my family. i had to go through this shit growing up. oh and seriously, whats the sentence for murder by a 15 year old?
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:23:20
dang.. thats a pretty tough situation you're in. Try to help him convince what she had done to your family and when he responds try to understand his point of view too.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:24:27
Thats a fucked up situation and all but what you have to realize is that your dad is a grown ass man and he's going to do whatever he wants to do with his life. You can't make his decisions for you and no matter how much you want to change things and bitch and moan its really not going to do anything to help the situation. Your dad is going to live the life he wants to lead through his own decisions and the reality of it is, is that you probably cant change the way he thinks or feels about her. So just take a deep breath and calm it down a bit. Go for a bike ride or something and clear your head; maybe just sleep on it. Getting angry and depressed is not going to change the situation in the least.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:28:38QUOTE (tylt @ Jun 13 2010, 07:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Thats a fucked up situation and all but what you have to realize is that your dad is a grown ass man and he's going to do whatever he wants to do with his life. You can't make his decisions for you and no matter how much you want to change things and bitch and moan its really not going to do anything to help the situation. Your dad is going to live the life he wants to lead through his own decisions and the reality of it is, is that you probably cant change the way he thinks or feels about her. So just take a deep breath and calm it down a bit. Go for a bike ride or something and clear your head; maybe just sleep on it. Getting angry and depressed is not going to change the situation in the least.
ya iv been accepting this for the past 7 years. i just hate it when he has to involve me into it. i dont want to accept her, and he keeps trying to make me. i dont want to be like my brother and have a bitch fight with him. any ideas on how i can get him to stop? -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:33:16
Meh. Yeah like tylt said. It's ur dads choice let him do what he wants. Try getting along with her? Or just ignore her or something. He probably wants to be with someone and if you get rid of her, he'll meet someone else so except it. As for the dinner on Tuesday night, have fun.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:34:33
Calmly. Without an attitude. Tell him, in private, that you don't like her. Give him good reasons. Don't shout, don't threaten him or anything. Just explain. It usually works ok. If he yells at you, don't say anything, just walk away.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:40:59QUOTE (miyat @ Jun 13 2010, 07:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Meh. Yeah like tylt said. It's ur dads choice let him do what he wants. Try getting along with her? Or just ignore her or something. He probably wants to be with someone and if you get rid of her, he'll meet someone else so except it. As for the dinner on Tuesday night, have fun.
she acts like a total crack head and treats me like im 5. -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:41:49QUOTE (Chief_Snake @ Jun 13 2010, 07:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Calmly. Without an attitude. Tell him, in private, that you don't like her. Give him good reasons. Don't shout, don't threaten him or anything. Just explain. It usually works ok. If he yells at you, don't say anything, just walk away.
did that last year. nothing happened -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:45:07
Have you tried insulting her straight to her face? Call her fat every opportunity you get without your dad being there. She has no authority to slap you and will get self conscious and maybe even think she's not good enough for your dad?
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:46:04
you cant be serious about murder, dont dirty your hands over bitches like this. ahahaha
damn.. i feel bad for you. imo, i think what your dad thinks is : i am divorced, i have my right to do anything i want to, so he cbf about the feelings of the rest of the family
but he doesnt realise hes a dad and he has children, and the children cannot accept a bitch as a mom at all, especially when the bitch has broken up their family. and in such cases, he cannot force you to accept her that easily.
imo, if you want to clarify this with him, you tell him to take a stand with either the children, or that bitch. is the family more important, or is your girlfriend? the dinner is a good place to talk with him. maybe tell him about how the rest of the family feels. dont say that he is selfish, because he will just rebutt that you are too. dont shout either, but you tell him to choose between what he wants. i'm sure he still finds family more important. most importantly, dont get him mad because thats gonna strain your relationship more. if he scolds you or crap like that, just walk off and ignore him. just try to have fun with the dinner, and slowly talk to him and come to your main point, to make a choice.
i hope you dont go nuts about this thing because a a bitch problem isnt your whole life and dont let that ruin your relationship with your dad. and dont end up like your bro. good luck mate -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:48:26
Well I don't know if you're going to take this seriously but... tell your dad, she's a fucking gold digger.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 02:50:00QUOTE (SPRiNGFiELD @ Jun 13 2010, 09:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>imo, if you want to clarify this with him, you tell him to take a stand with either the children, or that bitch. is the family more important, or is your girlfriend? the dinner is a good place to talk with him. maybe tell him about how the rest of the family feels. dont say that he is selfish, because he will just rebutt that you are too. dont shout either, but you tell him to choose between what he wants. i'm sure he still finds family more important. most importantly, dont get him mad because thats gonna strain your relationship more. if he scolds you or crap like that, just walk off and ignore him. just try to have fun with the dinner, and slowly talk to him and come to your main point, to make a choice.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 03:00:13QUOTE (Ohayo @ Jun 13 2010, 07:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Well I don't know if you're going to take this seriously but... tell your dad, she's a fucking gold digger.
she basically is a gold digger. but then again, she did help my dad start his company, and thats basically the reason he's rich, but idk if i can say shes a gold digger if she helped make money. oh and im 30% serious over murder. my brother would gladly help. he wouldnt really choose "family over bitch lady", cuz he knows he'd have it all. i really do like him as a dad besides this bitch getting in the way. the only 2 ppl that are really pissed over this are me and my brother. my mom doesnt care anymore, and i doubt the rest of his family cares. -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 03:01:32
Don't resort to murder. People who resort to murder are just as bad as your crazy bitch lady.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 03:02:34
To be quite honest, I highly doubt your dad will eave her because of what you do. Hes probably going to stay with her, but you have to decide what you wanna do about it.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 03:14:30
k i think iv got it figured out now. im just gunna tell him that im fine if theyr together(which i sorta am) as long as im not involved/know about what ever they do. ill fill u guys in after tuesday
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 03:24:50
tbh u do sound a little selfish, ur parents arent together any more, for whatever reason, its over and ur dad has moved on like people should. just because a man has kids doesnt mean he cant have a girlfriend, u need to think about ur dad, if he loves that woman he cant just let go cause his family nitches about her.
every1 thinks romeo and juliet is an amazing love story, 2 people love each other but the families just wont accept it, every1 hates those families, theyre so mean, they just dnt see wats between those 2 kids... so wtf r u doing? its the same situation and ur the disapproving family.
if none of ur family liked ur girlfriend would u just be like... "ok! ill call her now and break up with her"? would that be easy?
ur dad's a grown man, he can make his own decisions, wen u were younger (u may still be) ur dad would stop u doing stupid things coz he had more experience and more knowledge than u. he still does, he knows wat hes doing and hes confident if every1 opens up and stops bitching for second ull see wat he sees in her
edit: fail, u posted while i was typing all that
but still, if hes ur dad and hes with her, ur gonna get involved eventually. no way out of it, accept it
oh god AoD is here, hide -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 03:45:08
kill the bitch!
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 03:45:15QUOTE (Pen Ninja @ Jun 13 2010, 11:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>tbh u do sound a little selfish, ur parents arent together any more, for whatever reason, its over and ur dad has moved on like people should. just because a man has kids doesnt mean he cant have a girlfriend, u need to think about ur dad, if he loves that woman he cant just let go cause his family nitches about her.
every1 thinks romeo and juliet is an amazing love story, 2 people love each other but the families just wont accept it, every1 hates those families, theyre so mean, they just dnt see wats between those 2 kids... so wtf r u doing? its the same situation and ur the disapproving family.
if none of ur family liked ur girlfriend would u just be like... "ok! ill call her now and break up with her"? would that be easy?
ur dad's a grown man, he can make his own decisions, wen u were younger (u may still be) ur dad would stop u doing stupid things coz he had more experience and more knowledge than u. he still does, he knows wat hes doing and hes confident if every1 opens up and stops bitching for second ull see wat he sees in her
edit: fail, u posted while i was typing all that
but still, if hes ur dad and hes with her, ur gonna get involved eventually. no way out of it, accept it
oh god AoD is here, hide
epic win for romeo and juliet reference :OOO
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 03:53:42QUOTE (Ohayo @ Jun 14 2010, 11:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>epic win for romeo and juliet reference :OOO
i know ey... half way thru the st paragraph i was like
oh my gggggooooooooodddddddd!!!
thank you 12 yrs of english, showing me r&j 6 times -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 03:57:11
FUCK ENGLISH, FUCK GRAMMER, AND FUCK LIT!
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 04:11:41QUOTE (AoD1 @ Jun 14 2010, 11:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>FUCK ENGLISH, FUCK GRAMMER, AND FUCK LIT!
lol
i know the feeling...when i was a kid i always thought my siblings in US were really my siblings w/ my mother...i just found out and realized that it was my dads kids with another woman when i realized that my mom is young, and impossible to give birth to 4 children who are 20+ already that time...then just last year i found out i have another brother who lives here in ph. also..i just ignored it because if my father still has feelings for those women then he wouldnt choose our family....
just understand ur father...maybe my older siblings feel the same w/ my mom, the same way you feel about your dads bitch..but i dont think my siblings would feel that way because my dad told me they didnt divorce because of my mom, they fought over whether my brother is really their son because his bloodtype doesnt match my dads and his moms..but he totally looks like my dad lol....
just ignore that bitch and move on..yes likewhat all the other people said here your dad is a grown man and he can do whatever he wants.. -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 04:24:36QUOTE (Pen Ninja @ Jun 13 2010, 08:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>tbh u do sound a little selfish, ur parents arent together any more, for whatever reason, its over and ur dad has moved on like people should. just because a man has kids doesnt mean he cant have a girlfriend, u need to think about ur dad, if he loves that woman he cant just let go cause his family nitches about her.
every1 thinks romeo and juliet is an amazing love story, 2 people love each other but the families just wont accept it, every1 hates those families, theyre so mean, they just dnt see wats between those 2 kids... so wtf r u doing? its the same situation and ur the disapproving family.
if none of ur family liked ur girlfriend would u just be like... "ok! ill call her now and break up with her"? would that be easy?
ur dad's a grown man, he can make his own decisions, wen u were younger (u may still be) ur dad would stop u doing stupid things coz he had more experience and more knowledge than u. he still does, he knows wat hes doing and hes confident if every1 opens up and stops bitching for second ull see wat he sees in her
edit: fail, u posted while i was typing all that
but still, if hes ur dad and hes with her, ur gonna get involved eventually. no way out of it, accept it
oh god AoD is here, hide
not what i meant xD im fine that he has interest in other ppl, i just dont wanna get dragged into it.
EDIT: tomo, dont say nothing to no one. -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 05:39:18
lol so my essay was for nothing? D:
well to be fair there was no1 home, he can do watever he wants with his woman, then u walk in and he closes the door, better that than he waiting til ur there to start or leaving the door open -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 05:58:10QUOTE (Pen Ninja @ Jun 14 2010, 01:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>lol so my essay was for nothing? D:
well to be fair there was no1 home, he can do watever he wants with his woman, then u walk in and he closes the door, better that than he waiting til ur there to start or leaving the door open
It seems like that was only one example he brought up and is using it as an introduction in a way. he wants help addressing the whole issue.
But you just gotta accept it for what it is, you can't really change it. -
Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 06:18:27
ya if they have sex everyday im fine(as long as i dont know about it). and ya i guess mah bad for walking in. but its basically what Awesome said. im trying to address the whole issue.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 07:16:19
Hey man, I'm sorry about everything that's been going on but my best advice is to take no advice from anyone on this one.
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 11:57:18
ur parents are divorced right? so its not an affair...
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Date: Mon, Jun 14 2010 16:34:34
What exactly is it that you're trying to achieve? Get this woman out of your families life?
Also if you do contemplate murder, let me know your game plan maybe I can make it better, I planned a few murders in my head. -
Date: Tue, Jun 15 2010 07:58:14
imo he just wants an idea of what to do where this bitch doesnt continue to affect his family's life. so hes saying this bitch is screwing up the entire family and he wants to sort this thing out with her, but that would implicate his dad, so hes in a dilemma now, not knowing how to do it , and not about trying to patch back the entire family.
boshi, have u thought of couselling? that may be able to help you -
Date: Tue, Jun 15 2010 16:42:39
sosad
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Date: Tue, Jun 15 2010 16:50:25
Here is some advice. Dont blame your dad for who he wants to see, cause its his choice
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Date: Tue, Jun 15 2010 17:41:02
I'm in a simular situation, except my parents are still together.
My mom is having an affair on my dad :/ -
Date: Tue, Jun 15 2010 23:22:18
You shouldn't have text ed him. It'll just make everything more awkward. Since it's too late now, try not to bring up the topic and if he does, you can use this as a leverage to get what you want
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Date: Wed, Jun 16 2010 04:41:01
this topic is making me
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Date: Wed, Jun 16 2010 04:46:54
sooo how was the dinner?
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Date: Wed, Jun 16 2010 05:00:18
terrible I got served shitty food!
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Date: Wed, Jun 16 2010 06:07:58
my dad just acted like nothing happened. and we were having a good dinner, so i didnt wanna ruin it. he's probably just letting it slip, and i kinda want to too. w/e, im just gunna leave it for now. this thread really let me flame out my emotions i guess. hey can a mod close this thread?