UPSB v3
General Discussion / Depression
Important!! Plz read and reply honestly.
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 09:22:42
After I started spinning and modding, I always get teased by my friends about me being very nerdish and all sorts. Before i started, everything wasnt like this and i never got teased be4. So now i feel really depressed and I feel like quitting pen spinning. Before i really do so, I wanna ask: Does this happen to u? If so, wat to u normally do when u get teased?
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 09:45:36
Do I get teased and all about pen spinning? Yes I do, only by my friends though. Its just joking around teasing stuff like "Hah! You failed at that trick"
I don't do anything to prevent it because I'm not giving up a hobby which I enjoy.
If they insult you or whatever just tell them thats its your hobby and like anyone else, a hobby is something you enjoy. If you love your hobby you keep doing what you do.
If I were you I wouldn't care what people though. I'd keep going because I myself enjoy pen spinning and keep it that way.
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 10:23:34
That's weird dude. My friends think my spinning is cool and they want to learn how to do it.
And it doesnt really matter what other people think. Just what you think.
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 10:56:58
Do not feel depressed.
I do not see any "nerdish" of modding and ps'ing though. They didnt tease you before could be that you had "nothing" to be making fun of. Now you got a hobby, an unique hobby which the other might not have. They see soccer, consoles etc as normal hobbies, which PS and modding isnt. They still don't see the point that PS is cool. When one person saying that, then the others immitate and starts making fun of you. It will be very tough for you everyday because you PS and mod, but if they find another victum, then they might stop bother you. Just remember, they want to make their life funnier and don't care about other's feeling as long they have fun. Those kind of people are not worth to notice them.
About your question, I never got teased at school about PS because I started this year and I am working. My coworkers think I spin very cool, even if I only showed my Sonic rise, Ta Harmonic etc
But in college people teased me because I was the only black hair girl in class and also the smallest (normal for asian girls I guess). Just because I am small, they always tease me. It could be NOT normal for them to see a small girl, which is why they always tease me. I was made joke of my height since highschool, then college AND academy. I am who I am, which can't change. I just ignore them and smile. So be yourself and be proud of your choice.
Next time they tease you, don't let them see that you are feeling bad because of their words. Act normal or els they think their words are effective. Try your best to look up, and not down. Honestly I think it is very tough... Are there no PS'ers in your school? Hanging out with people who also like to PS could be good though, so you won't feel alone.
I hope those kids stop annoy you, cause many young people got worst life thanks to them
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 12:29:39
i guess u shouldnt quit cuz its ur hobby and probably u shouldnt quit. I kno people whom this have happened to b4.....some of them dont care...the others dont spin near their friends but when they're not around..a lot. Now its ur wish to choose what kind you want to be...
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 12:56:01
hmmmm you should ask yourself this is it worth it to keep on going and proving everyone thats "teasing" you wrong. i mean i was semi- teased when i began then i learned lots of "crowd-liky-this-very-much" tricks like rly fast sonic rise harmonics and aerials and what not, if u do that maybe they will think otherwise. and also they will stop teasing you after awhile. because they will see the true talent behind penspinning. some will even try to copy you but they will give up because they can't and don't have enough patience to try. hope this helps a bit
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 13:25:36
Your friends tease you?
You need new friends... -
Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 13:25:49
Most of my friends and a few people like it/don't care. Other people tease me but honestly I could care less.
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 13:43:34
hey man...i get it all the time. People call me weird, alien hands and all sorts of thing.....but i dont normally care....
Next time, if anyone ever call you nerd or anything, give them a pen and ask them to spin....see if they can even do a TA harmonic. Well, i am quite fortunate to have friends that dont actually teased me....its the other student who usually tease me.
But, i challenge them in something that i am good at.....like....cubing....i will trash them like nobodys business.....in the end, they will jack themselves.....lost to a sec 1 kid....
so ya bro,....chill...dont get depressed so easily...
btw, i lost my main pen....this is you should get depressed.... -
Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 13:47:42
wow
prople called me weird even before i started PSing
and if thats the reson you want to quit... :/
srsly, people can tease you for anything, it's up to you to decide if you will continue to do what you want, or will let them to stop you -
Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 15:29:02
@patte: holy shit what are you doign here?!
first of all, there a lot of PSers in singapore and they meet quite often. I'm sure you can find new PSer friends quite easily.
second, if they're your friends I don't think they're very serious about it cuz otherwise its like bullying
third, you don't have to show off your mods and your best tricks at school -
Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 17:29:10QUOTE (Mats @ Jul 14 2008, 09:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Your friends tease you?
You need new friends...
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 17:34:21
Ah hell, if patte can get around to replying, then I can too...
Unless none of your friends have any hobbies of their own, they have no place to tease you for your hobbies. Make fun of them for their hobbies.
No one I know teases me about it, but then I also just keep it somewhat to myself. If I'm PSing in public, I still keep attention with what's going on around me so I don't isolate myself from everyone else. I also just discuss PSing with people who are actually interested in it and don't mention it around most people unless someone asks me about it. -
Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 17:40:38
I just say, "You try."
They fail and STFU, realizing PSing isn't as easy as some of us make it seem. -
Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 17:44:20QUOTE (Xero @ Jul 14 2008, 01:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>I just say, "You try."
They fail and STFU, realizing PSing isn't as easy as some of us make it seem.
i think it's the fact that he actually "tries" is the reason why his friends tease him -.-''
but uh..just make fun of them back for stuff that they do =\ --which sketching said before
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 17:51:11
How bad do they tease you? Just calling you a nerd? Or actually beat the crap out of you and breaking your mods?
Me and 2 of my friends were one of the first spinners in my school, people did tease us for having 'no life' but we didn't care what they thought about us...
-Few months later-
Everyone admire our pen spinning skills and the number of pen spinners increased from 3 to over 10!
If your friends won't like pen spinning, then don't pen spin in front of them then, you can't just quit your hobby just because of your friends, that's PEER PRESSURE.
So dude, I hope you'll make the right choice -
Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 18:18:52
Some of my Washington friends teased me about psing at school (Thank GOD im moving). and yea sometimes i actually did feel pretty bad about it, they talked about how it was useless and once they asked my teacher wut he thought about it and even he said "im not going to make fun of u for it because in 8 years u could possibly be making more money then me" pretty much saying that it was stupid if u read between the lines -.-.
Just leave ur friends be, they're seriously just really ignorant and if they really cared about you as a friend then when it comes to psing they'd at LEAST half heartedty think it's cool which is better then thinking is dumb. if u asked about MY opinion then i'd seriously rant to them in a different language about how they suck pretty much, then leave making them dumbfounded and i wouldnt care.(the different language thing is just wut I'D do u don't have to do that XD)
and trust me if ur like "but making new friends is hard"....it's not. when i came to Washington last year in like july 29th i was going to go to high school. new friends new area literally no new people to meet, but on the first 3 days of school i made at least 7 new friends. just ditch them and find ppl who ACTUALLY understand you.
Stick with ur friends for a while, and if they seriously just trash pen spinning and they really dont care about your hobby at all then leaving them to find some new people is the BEST choice i dont even need to say its my opinion its seriously wut u should do
-Fang short version rant-mode was here :3
edit: Lien-nuna's rant still beat mine though -sniff- -
Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 19:12:56
acctually my friends think it's cool, but they can't do it, they don't want to lose face, so they often joke around about it, usually there is nothing intense though
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 19:20:39
the simple question is, are they right, does it matter, do you care??
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Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 21:00:10QUOTE (Mats @ Jul 14 2008, 06:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Your friends tease you?
You need new friends...
Took the words right out of my mouth, if they were your friends they wouldn't care. -
Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 21:42:36
If your'e depressing beacause people tell you your'e nerdy, then show them your'e not as nerdy you look!
To answer "no I can't go to you're party 'cause I am busy on USPB" is not a good thing. -
Date: Mon, Jul 14 2008 22:31:20
Send those guys who say anything bad to me. I will rip them a new one gladfully
"I said what what in the butt?" -
Date: Tue, Jul 15 2008 06:21:21
Thanks guys. I appreciate it and I think it helped.
Btw, My friends dun really hate me for spinning but for modding. I started spinning cuz i was influenced by my friend. He spins a unmodded zig clean colour marker and says that pen modding ruins the essence of pen spinning. I did not care whatever he said until he started a rumour that was:"Pen modders sux!!!" I was like OMFG and that was when my classmates started teasing me... Sometimes they even play with my pens and tear off the grip of my mx's, stealing parts of my mods that i bring to school. Now I only bring 1 pen to school to spin with. Well that really suck.... -
Date: Tue, Jul 15 2008 06:44:22
Two words. Dont trip. You know wuhhs best. If they bug, knock the nigguh out. Real talk thoo. If they bug, dont even worry about it. If they're your real friends, you have the right to stand up for yourself. Letting them take over your emotions like that wont help you at all; it'll fck you up big time. Spin if you want in public. And if they talk again, just be chill. If they're your friends too, they should respect your hobby. If they dont, try looking for other friends. Or try to find some on Craigslist.
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Date: Tue, Jul 15 2008 15:22:29
At 13 years old, yeah you're gonna get picked on for everything in the entire world. Kids are cruel. Middle school and highschool were some of the best and the worst times of my entire life. They are also times i would never want to re-live.
Nonetheless i dont think you will ever outgrow the feeling of being 'weird' by doing something that other people dont do, or maybe havent even ever seen before. I am 27, and i work in an office. I spin when i'm at work because its something you can do mindlessly while working. Some of my coworkers have said things about it, most of the time they just ignore me. (i try not to drop it too much) But when it comes down to it, i like it. Its fun and relaxing. It keeps my mind focused and keeps my soul at peace. I could care less what others think about me, i like myself.
So do yourself a favor and practice being your own person. It will make you happier. -
Date: Wed, Jul 16 2008 09:04:22
Agree with Mats
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Date: Wed, Jul 16 2008 09:51:09
UNCO SAME: AHAH SO HURT.
okay but srs, why do you care. people say what they want, they are entitled to their opinion. do what you think is right. they're not living your life for you -
Date: Wed, Jul 16 2008 09:57:25QUOTE (BlacknWhite @ Jul 14 2008, 05:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Before i started, everything wasnt like this and i never got teased be4. So now i feel really depressed and I feel like quitting pen spinning. Before i really do so, I wanna ask: Does this happen to u? If so, wat to u normally do when u get teased?
Er... if you take your "friends" comments that seriously I'd say you are a retard. If the teasing really gets to you that much, tell a teacher or ask your parents to write to the school and demand recompense for the emotional trauma you suffered.
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Date: Wed, Jul 16 2008 10:44:21QUOTE (Gunblakes @ Jul 16 2008, 05:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Er... if you take your "friends" comments that seriously I'd say you are a retard. If the teasing really gets to you that much, tell a teacher or ask your parents to write to the school and demand recompense for the emotional trauma you suffered.
Dude...hes feeling hurt already, dont add to it...
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Date: Thu, Jul 17 2008 05:12:58
yea, i get some people who laugh and make fun of me for spinning too. originally i took up ps to show off to my friends. now its more for my own purposes. (e.g: improve finger dexterity, speed, entertainment and to show off on upsb one day). Not to mention battles.
yea, some people like it, some don't. honestly who cares? -
Date: Thu, Jul 17 2008 13:35:51
Very little. Last tease happened almost 2 years ago.
That's because I'm not obsessed or spin a weird stick every minute. -
Date: Thu, Jul 17 2008 14:41:45
well first thing is your friends joking? If the answer is yes, laugh it off. If answer is no, tell them this "If you are noober than me in psing, you would have no right to lecture me about it, be a man not a loser" i use this on my teacher often. and for the pen modding thing, tell the person who hate pen modding "In any kind of competition or contest, your ability depend of 4 factors, skill, equipment, luck and body condition(Like illness, nervousness or other syndrome which come naturally), if you wish to use a unmodded pen then go ahead as different people have different taste(is this the right word to use?) but never criticise people about their preference, be a man not a loser". Pen modding is not wrong, i sux at modding, i hate that part of myself, i got my pens online, and i use a kt despite people saying its a noob pen or whatsoever.catering to your own interest is the most basic thing for a human to do.
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Date: Thu, Jul 17 2008 14:54:49
Dude don't worry...We all get in that teasing stage.
There's one way to overcome that. Get a hell lottta good in psing and the next thing you'll know they'll all be staring in awe with mouths open. Haha. And then they'll ask you how to do it. It works great....They are all like "what the heck is that?" Its cool.
Don't take there teasing to heart and they'll get tired eventally. -
Date: Sun, Jul 20 2008 15:17:44
Since your friend spin show him some pro video and tell him that's what you can and only can reach with moded pen...
or even better get pro yourself and learn stuff he can't do...then he probably get the whole concept of modding
But hey if they really are your friend try not to give up the friendship for pen spinning as well...
Influence them...
Btw for myself the guys I know do take my pen but it's not agianst pen spining, we take each other's stuff randomly for fun...
it's kinda weird hobby of ours I guess... -
Date: Thu, Aug 21 2008 12:13:38
well basically the onli reason y he gt teased was cuz he was grabbing his classmate's pens and starting ripping their grips off without their permission and start cutting em. den when his classmates find out dey have no choice but to gif him the grip. i dun think their bullying him. his bullying other ppl. esp the girls lolx
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Date: Thu, Aug 21 2008 13:50:58
u need a ps friends
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Date: Fri, Aug 22 2008 13:47:31QUOTE (henry5252515 @ Jul 20 2008, 11:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Since your friend spin show him some pro video and tell him that's what you can and only can reach with moded pen...
or even better get pro yourself and learn stuff he can't do...then he probably get the whole concept of modding
But hey if they really are your friend try not to give up the friendship for pen spinning as well...
Influence them...
Btw for myself the guys I know do take my pen but it's not agianst pen spining, we take each other's stuff randomly for fun...
it's kinda weird hobby of ours I guess...
Lol I showed my friend a video and he said it was kinda boring.
I took a good look at it and was like..yeah.. to a person who doesn't spin pens, everything looks the same after awhile but to pen spinners like us, we'll be amazed.
Best way is just to be good t it yourself. I get teased at school for Psing too but I don't really care cause I'm the only one in my school who's able to do this properly.
As to pen modding, challenge him to a battle using a mod while he uses an unmodded pen. If you win, he'll most likely say it's because you used a mod but we're challenging between a mod and an unmodded so his reasoning will not be legitimate.. you understand what I mean? If you lose, you'll get teased even more so use that as a push factor not to lose.
Of course, in the event that you do lose, just IGNORE EVERYTHING AROUND YOU. As in.. everyone who teases you. Even if they talk to you seriously or apologise. Do not accept their apology. they had the chance to apologise but didn't use it so just don't bother.
If you think it sucks having no friends, I know how you feel. I'm in the same situation too. Just be independent.
If they take of your grips and spoil your unmodded pens and stuff, I've got a solution. You can either get a mod that writes and bring only that pen to school (Which I don't reccomend) or you do this:
When you reach class, take out your pencil case, take out your pen mod, and spin away. Before you spin away though, keep the other pens in your pencil case and keep it in your bag. That way, you'll have a reason to hit them or tell the teacher if they touch your bag. When you need the rest of your stationary,bring out your pencil case. I don't think they'll rip out your grips while the teacher's teaching lol.
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Date: Fri, Aug 22 2008 16:06:44
Why would anyone need friends?
People take your stuff? Sock 'em in the face. They'll think twice before they take anything again.
They break your stuff? Push them down the stairs. -
Date: Fri, Aug 22 2008 20:07:23QUOTE (Jaybles @ Aug 22 2008, 06:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Why would anyone need friends?
People take your stuff? Sock 'em in the face. They'll think twice before they take anything again.
They break your stuff? Push them down the stairs.
why not? we are social beings, we always need someone. you can be unsocial person, but even then you have to spend some time with other people -
Date: Sat, Aug 23 2008 09:10:57
You can just ditch your school friends and just hand out with other PSers from SG on UPSB.
If you look nerdy, time to spice up your looks. Go out wearing a leather jacket and spike your hair or something lol.
Add some nice inserts/outerts to your pen so they dont look nerdy and stuff. -
Date: Sat, Aug 23 2008 14:16:44
Actually, I don't get teased... They actually tell me how great they think PS and Modding is.
and btw.. I think they're just teasing you because they're jealous