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Serious Discussion / Someday You Will Die
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Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 14:02:51
How do you cope with this? Acceptance? Faith in a certain religion?
Personally, I am currently traumatized by the realization that one day, I will not exist.
I will no longer be around, no longer be able to touch or see or hold the ones I love.
I have yet to find anything that has helped me cope with this fear, aside from something that I came up with...
When I fall asleep, I don't know when it happens, or why, or when I will wake up, or why. The song I Will Follow You Into the Dark by Death Cab for Cutie is somewhat like this.
I also remember seeing a quote one time... "It's not about living forever; it's about making something that will." -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 14:08:53
As of right now, I dont' really even think about my death. I realize that someday, I will, but why think about it now, it's not going to prolong it any more as compared to if i didn't think about it. But i suppose, if i were asked to think about my death as i am right now, well, all i'd wish for is a peaceful one... Not really trying to avoid death cause it's just a natural process, and so i'd prefer it if i was to die in a natural way (old age...).
But if it's the murder type of death, I would most definitely try to avoid that =\ i mean, who wouldn't xDD
So i guess for me, it's acceptance. -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 14:09:42
I have thought about this many times.... I have religion, but all it says is that I'll die, and judgement, etc.
I just try not to think about it. I just pray each night I go to sleep that I wake up the next. Also, if I have like pains or something in my body, I won't go to sleep until after like 6 hours, that way I know there is nothing that I know of that caused my death.
"It's not about living forever; it's about making something that will."
I've heard this too. I think it's a way to express that instead of worrying that you will die, just worry about what you can do to make the world a better place, or living to the fullest, instead of just worrying about stuff.
Also, I cope with this, by just thinking there is something in this world, of which I am needed to do. I am not quite sure of what "My reason of living" is, but I believe I shall soon find it. Either it be fixing the world, or creating a child that will fix the world. Just that purpose, helps me to go on through my life, and think about things, other than death.
And if I am to die, I would want to die of old age, instead of something like gunshot, or burned alive, or buried alive....Those are gay. -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 14:26:31
The whole point, JC, of thinking of it now, is because if I wreck my life now, would it make any difference?
Graduates of Harvard and people who get 2300s on the SAT die the same that criminals and homeless people do... -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 14:45:00
hmm... well, i'd like to assume that i won't die so soon and that i should work hard and make the best of what i can for now instead of partying and wasting my life away since i'll die in the end anyway
i wanna come up with some scenerios...hmm...:
1. work hard and do well in school but die at 20
2. work hard and do well and be rich and die at 80
3. waste your life away and have fun everyday and die at 20
4. waste your life away and have fun everyday but die at 80
okay, scenerio 1 is definitely not a choice that i would take, but i'd much rather take that chance and work hard for the possibility of getting scenerio 2
scenerio 3 is okay, but what am i going to do after i run out of money and a home, just kill myself? (living up like that until you're 80 is ideal, but unrealistic because of money reasons)--with that said, 4 is ruled out because of the fact that i doubt it'll happen and i dont' want to take that chance
so i wouldn't wreck your life now and continue living, continue working hard in school, and continue getting those good grades--and then you'll have a comfortable life
you could have a comfortable life just partying your days away and having fun, but i doubt you'd live as long as a person who took care of themselves, both their body and brain--- and i feel that you'd be more of a family person instead of being alone and going whereever and doing whatever
and again, it's your choice to choose which one you want, family or fun by yourself
and then there's the possibility that you wont' live that long and just die at 20 from a car accident...where you wouldn't get a family, and you didn't have too much fun in hoping for a nicer future----well, those are just the downs in life, and i'd take that chance anyway cause i dunno, it's safer? (as slightly ironic as that does sound...)
and if i become nice and rich, but don't have too much fun--as is sometimes portrayed in movies xDD (ex. Christmas Carol and the Scrooge)--well, at least i'd have money to pass onto the next generation and hope for their happiness
is that kind of stupid of me? to sacrifice my happiness for others happiness? eh, i dunno, that's just how i am a lot of times---i have my share of fun just doing daily things--hanging out with friends, going out to watch a movie--simple things like that are fun enough for me, but i wouldn't want to do them excessively where i can't concentrate on my future a little bit at least and only worry about having fun during the present...
so it's not that i want to die, but if i die, i die...nothing i can do about it
i can only hope that i live long enough to make a difference in another person's life
and if i dont', well, life isn't always fair to everyone
and so for the time being, i'd try to work hard with occasional times of enjoyment and fun
it's very important to be balanced in life, really.... can't have too much fun, but can't work too hard--so dont' wreck your life now, work at it and continue it for as long as you possibly can
well, i'm done ranting for now--i realize i went off topic a little from to time but i tried to go back on topic in the end
great job if you actually sat through and read all that xDD i know i wouldn't have read all that (...which is wierd, cause i just sat through and typed all that... meh, w/e xD ) -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 14:49:59
In the end, all stories lead to death. How do you cope with that concept?
Death is the one disease with 100% mortality.
What comforts you? How can you just choose to accept it? -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 14:51:51
well, just the fact that it's natural i guess =\
i'm buddhist/sorta daoist?, but i'm not really big into religion
we have reincarnation, but we won't know that we'll live again when we die
so uh...my answer is jsut the fact that it's natural allows me to accept it -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 14:58:22
I just don't want what I have now to ever end.
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Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 15:19:58
I'm kind of a Buddhist and a kind of I dunno.
For me it's sure that bodies die, but souls don't. You can reincarnate whenever you want to, when your body is dead (when the conditions are best to learn your life lessons). And you can "talk to" anyone and concentrate on anything.
I actually believe that being "dead" is very nice, so it's not something to worry about. It may be worse for your friends who are left without you. I don't believe in judgment, judging is something that only humans do and what they must learn not to do. -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 15:24:38
im not anything, and im not afraid of death. I only feel bad for those i leave behind, narcissistic as it sounds.
but i'm gonna be chillin until then, so no arguments -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 15:26:38
just deal with it cmon i mean why think about it now? just live life to the fullest and see where it takes you, maybe one day you wish you were dead. there is no point in thinking about dying right now , if your 80+ ok but dude cmon chill
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Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 16:45:17
As lame as it sounds, I live everyday as if I'm not going to be here the next. Granted, I use precaution with things such as finances - you don't want to spend everything you have just because you're 'seizing the day' (as they say).
I cope with death by overcoming it - it doesn't stop me from doing anything right now. Sure, its coming, but its something you can't stop. Death is kind of like time - you can't stop it's course, it ends up killing everything in the end, and you can't do anything but accept that. /shurg
Thats enough of that, though.
Now, go outside and seize the day! -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 17:26:26
patte has a point, everyone posting here is young and no-one wants to die while they are looking forwards towards their future, however, when one is older and looking back rather than forwards death may not seem as much of a negative prospect.
Yeah that's the kind of view I take on death. Right now it would suck but looks unlikely to happen. Maybe when I'm older it would suck less to die, I could even see a time at which I wouldn't be bothered by death coming at all.
And there is one thing to look forward to when you die... No more negative emotion -
Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 18:56:44
It's pretty selfish to want to make your death mean something or to die in a tasteful way. It's just death, all people will experience it in this world, and it just happens. Enjoy it while you're alive, and don't worry about the circumstances or meaning or your death.
And by enjoy I don't mean waste it or party all the time - just live a good, healthy life.
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Date: Tue, Jul 22 2008 19:27:05
life's also about achieving something too.
lots of rich people who had lots of fun throughout their lives regret it on their deathbed, that they did not achieve something in life. -
Date: Wed, Jul 23 2008 02:46:07
"And if I am to die, I would want to die of old age, instead of something like gunshot, or burned alive, or buried alive....Those are gay."
Being killed by gunfire isn't so bad. I believe the Vikings wanted to die honorably in battle. -
Date: Wed, Jul 23 2008 02:49:52QUOTE (Samson @ Jul 23 2008, 03:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Being killed by gunfire isn't so bad. I believe the Vikings wanted to die honorably in battle.
The vikings weren't taking gunfire. Death by being shot is often horrific. =[ -
Date: Wed, Jul 23 2008 07:06:44
death by being shot wouldnt be as bad as being hacked to pieces by an axe like the vikings.
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Date: Wed, Jul 23 2008 12:09:50
You would be surprised Sidewinder.
Axes make clean cuts. Bullets make holes and the exit wounds are awful. -
Date: Wed, Jul 23 2008 12:13:44
Life is far too important a thing ever to talk seriously about.
- Oscar Wilde -
Date: Wed, Jul 23 2008 12:23:58
Actually I am not afraid to die. Not that I dont care what my life will become or anything but I guess if you live life to the fullest or the way you want it, it doesnt matter... I mean i would rather die than see someone I love die...Before I was afraid to die but now i'm not.
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Date: Thu, Jul 24 2008 02:20:34
I'm not sure what would induce you to contemplate your mortality seeing as you are all very young. Unless you live under a veritable threat of imminent death (e.g. murder-rich neighbourhood, pernicious disease, etc.) there is no reason to fear dying. Even then you can learn to accept foreseeable death with composure. It's the sudden threats to life that are hard to accept (e.g. being held at gunpoint). There are far more important things in life to worry about anyway which can be avoided. Live for the moment but also be able to set goals for the future. However, don't try to predict your own life too far down the road because many unexpected things can happen during the course of 5 years, for instance.
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Date: Fri, Jul 25 2008 02:02:04
Now, in relation to the topic.
If you could, would you want to know the date of your death, and why?
I personally would like to know the date of my death so I could live my life and do the things I want to do. Every minute of every day would seem more valuable and I would waste less time doing things such as PEN SPINNING and GUITAR HERO. But hey, we can't know the date of our death, so go on and live your life how you want to live it. -
Date: Fri, Jul 25 2008 08:35:40
I think it would be horrible to know exactly when you will die.
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Date: Sun, Jul 27 2008 09:43:21
especially if it was soon...
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Date: Wed, Aug 6 2008 05:34:42
Don't be afraid to die...since you never know when your soul will pass....it could happen as you are typing a reply to this post...then you're just being paranoid.
Good people shouldn't be afraid to die. -
Date: Fri, Aug 8 2008 08:40:37
Really though this is how I feel about this whole thing. I'm not scared of death, I'm scared of what comes after. I really don't think that people should be afraid of death itself because on a long enough time-line the survival rate for anyone drops to zero. Its what come after that scares the living shit out of me because what if there actually is nothing on the other side, what if theres a burning raging hell, but what if there is a paradise that some call heaven. All I know is that at my age I try not to think about death because I know that my death isn't coming for a while and if it is coming soon I'd be content with the things I've done. I may not have accomplished everything I wanted to do in life but at least I know that I'd die with good friends to remember me.
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Date: Fri, Aug 8 2008 09:12:19
Why not just get it over with?
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Date: Fri, Aug 8 2008 09:24:46QUOTE (Gunblakes @ Aug 8 2008, 02:12 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Why not just get it over with?
Why?
Because that would be a waste of the things that I could have done. I'm not talking suicide here I'm just saying that I'd be content. -
Date: Sun, Aug 10 2008 00:22:04
I believe when you die, you go into a deep sleep. It is exactly the same as before you were born - you had no thoughts. But the thought of there being a hell doesn't scare the **** out of me, it just annoys me. How annoying will it be to die then go to your "judgement" just to find out that God is real and him to say "you're going to hell, I pity you fool". "It's not my fault Mr. God, sir, how am I supposed to know you're real when the only 'evidence' there is is a book which could ONLY be written by you and no one else because that would just be silly if someone made up the book, and the stories people tell about how when their brain is only half working they see a bright light and hear a voice saying 'Cometh into the light, child.'"
I'm so screwed if he is real... Oops, hope this doesn't turn into a "Is God Real?" thread. Sozzles. No offence to religion by the way, I respect how strongly you believe in a higher being intending to do good, but that idea just seems... as meaningful as a moderator who never does anything... -
Date: Sat, Aug 16 2008 19:29:23
I'm not afraid of death. Just live your life the way you want... death will come when it should come.
I don't believe in god, to be honest. I don't think Heaven and Hell exist. I just believe that when you day... you die. That's it. There's nothing more to it. And if I'm wrong? oh well, I guess it's a meeting with God, then.
I just enjoy life as it is (: -
Date: Mon, Aug 25 2008 05:05:20
Ah... death. an unavoidable fate. Well. lets try not to think about it. i dont anyway. i often wonder when i will die, as i am a christian. I often wonder what will happen AFTER i die. but who doesnt? I mean no one wants to die. i mean death certainly isnt nice, but you shouldnt fear it. You should accept that you WILL die, and move on. just go on with your life. your certainly not going to think "hmm i wonder when im going to die" while enjoying a fun night with friends. and when i die, i would like to die of old age obviously, but i hope it will be quick and painless. there, now you heard my thoughts.